Parents are trying to do their best for their children. They are using this outdated motivational method with good intentions. Just as their parents were with them. They want their kids to grow up to be independent, resilient, good moral citizens with good jobs. Of course they don’t realise the damage shame can cause over time...
We are awakening to how harmful practices like shaming, judging and punishing can be on our child’s sense of self worth. But these ways are so deeply ingrained and automatic within us that they creep out sometimes. What happens at your place when you make a mistake with your kids?
Many of us have grown up in an authoritarian society where the big people had all the power and the children had little to none. Have you ever thought about how these feelings effect us when we come face-to-face with power struggles with our children?
When children are showing us challenging behaviours, what they are really asking for is our help, and we can help them through more connection and love (rather than disconnection and punishment). The trouble is trying to remember this in the heat of the moment!
When you’re feeling flat and can’t seem to shake it... When you’re feeling low, despondent, down. Everything suddenly seems way too hard. And you’re asking yourself, “what is the point?” Here’s an uplifting reminder and practical tools to help.